Your SO past closet space

[DylanFTW]

Have you ever been with someone that you know has a pretty big past but you don't know exactly how big? If so how do or did you get around questons in your mind?

I want to know things but at the same time I don't. I don't know what to do and it's keeping me up at night. I hate this crap. I guess also I just need to vent and I'd like to vent to my girlfriend but yet I have the feeling if I do then it will kill the relationship.

Any input? :(

[Tomoko]

keyword: past.

it's her past. if she wants to share it with you one day then she will. you had nothing to do with her past. worry about what you both can do for each other in the present and future.

[tofuspeedstar]

keyword: past.

it's her past. if she wants to share it with you one day then she will. you had nothing to do with her past. worry about what you both can do for each other in the present and future.


word.

[92hatch]

keyword: past.

it's her past. if she wants to share it with you one day then she will. you had nothing to do with her past. worry about what you both can do for each other in the present and future.
I agree man. Its going to kill your realationship if you just focus on also man. Maybe shes ashamed of her passed and doesnt want you to know man. Good luck with what ever you decide

[bipolar integra]

Yea dude her past is her past my girl has a past with a certain Ikon member but i dont let that faggot stop me from loving my girl more and more each day.

[Boodah]

Yea dude her past is her past my girl has a past with a certain Ikon member but i dont let that faggot stop me from loving my girl more and more each day.

wow daniels such a bad ass hahaa

[DylanFTW]

Well my girl has a past with what I believe to be a lot of members of H-I, a pretty well know picture taker and one of my friends that I see a lot. She chose him over me a few months ago for a relationship of just sex as well witch hurts a lot.

I try not to dwell on it and I know its not really my place to get into but it tends to get to me. I'm just wondering if everything she is telling me is what she's told every other guy :(

[ticket_target]

as much as these guys are saying leave the past alone, you still have to learn from it. beware of things in her past that may repeat themselves. Ignorance is bliss, but dont be naive. if something is bothering you, best thing to do is ask. if it isnt true, then it clears your mind. if it is, come to grips with it and decide if you can have a relationship beyond that truth...

[norsamerican]

keyword: past.

it's her past. if she wants to share it with you one day then she will. you had nothing to do with her past. worry about what you both can do for each other in the present and future.



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[Ebonnova]

i would ask and if she says something along the lines as though she doesnt want you to know now or ever then thats your answer. it wont hurt to ask espepcially if you are in a relationship with someone. its all about communication. you do have to be open and honest with someone if you want things to work out.

and someone might not be a part of your past but allot of the past can affect your future so i think its still important to know things. now you dont have to necessarily go into full details and everything like that but..well, i guess im coming from a married point of view. before david and i were married we went to marriage counseling classes 12 of them to be exact. not because we had problems but because it was offered by the church where we got married to help us before and during out marriage. it was very helpful and insightful. when you get into a relationship with someone its no longer just about you. its the both of you.. so you have to think unselfishly. period. and yes i wrote out the word period. lol

[bipolar integra]

wow daniels such a bad ass hahaa

LOL i am dude

[Vee]

LOL i am dude

I'm sure you are. :rolleyes:

[Tomoko]

keyword: past.

it's her past. if she wants to share it with you one day then she will. you had nothing to do with her past. worry about what you both can do for each other in the present and future.

Ok in addition to this note, unless she was arrested for homocide/manslaughter and/or have had psychiatric counseling for misusage of sharp kitchen utensils, then you should be fine k thanks.

[Cheese Tits]

I can see the "it's her past and should stay that way" thing, but it's more than that... you can't totally ignore someone's past. It was what it was and when they are ready to share it with you they will. You can ask but if they aren't ready to tell you then you just have to wait. That sucks, but hopefully at some point they will be comfortable enough with you and trust you enough to share things like that. The past is the past, but in a relationship you should at least be comfortable enough with someone to talk about it... at some point.
Try not to dwell on it too much is all I can say... that also just causes problems.
Relationships are so complicated sometimes... when I feel like they shouldn't be... that was a tangent but whatever. Ok I'm done.

[Em1_crew]

^^^^im with her. but for real put the past way behind you because the more you hear about it the worse it gets. it's done with just like you have had past feeling. unless she wants to talk about it dont stress the issue too much. just make memories with her.

[FerNasty]

daniel is cutting bitches looooose!!!! he is one man army, nothing can stop him...maybe his girlfriend...but i don't knowjk :D